
When J and I were planning our wedding, it was quickly apparent to me that a traditional wedding rehearsal on Friday evening would not "fit" our needs or desires. Instead, we invited our family and friends to a party in the barn on the farm where I grew up. While enjoying some delicious BBQ chicken and ribs, we were entertained with "stukjes" - traditional Dutch wedding entertainment about the couple and "performed" by family members and friends. There are no rules with stukjes. Stukjes can be serious or funny; read, acted or sung; involve the bride/groom or the audience, etc. 
Friday evening is one of our best memories from our wedding. It was such a fun time - filled with laughter, joy, memories of the past, anticipation of the future, and even a few tears. Enjoy these photos of the stukje highlights!

My Boston roommates sang a song about a few of my favorite (and not so favorite) things...to the tune of "My Favorite Things" from "The Sound of Music".

My sister and brother-in-law presented us with a bag filled with items representing the keys to a happy, strong and successful marriage.

My London flatmates and college friends shared memories of that infamous semester abroad in '97 and the many wonderful experiences since then.

J's uncle read us a poem which he wrote himself.

My parents shared memories of my childhood growing up on the farm and welcomed J into the Sauder family.

J's friends shared their favorite (and craziest) memories of J... and asked me if I was very sure I really wanted to marry this guy?!?

J's father shared memories and pictures of J throughout the years and welcomed me into the family by presenting me with a set of silver cutlery (which many European children receive at birth).

J's sister presented us with an anniversary calendar made by J's aunt. Each month, on our anniversary, we will pull out a little note about love and marriage.

J's brother and sister-in-law challenged us to a series of Dutch games to determine which one of us is the "most Dutch"!
J & I give a special thank you to my brother, sister-in-law and their children for all their hard (and very dusty) work to prepare the farm for this special evening. Thank you!
And it only seems fitting to post a picture of this beautiful farm where we held our Stukjes party. It's a beautiful place, and I am so happy that my brother and his family are now living there. Selfishly, I'm just glad I still get to go "home" when I visit PA :) Sharing my farm home with my family and friends is a very special wedding memory for me. 